​Never beg somebody to stay

Losing some people is not a loss,, it’s actually a gain.

These are words that I had heard all my life but hadn’t really got through, not until I learnt from experience In the mid months of 2016.

There was this guy who we had been friends for years and years.

He had come to visit me because it had been long since we saw each other. That night, we took dinner and got drunk.

With us was my girlfriend who I had recently “stole” from her boyfriend who I hadn’t met. My girlfriend and I slept on the bed while my guest decided to sleep on the couch.

The next thing I remember is I woke up early in the morning and realized that I was alone in the house.

I first thought that am hallucinating but when I saw the shoes of my guest at the door of my girlfriend’s house I got a mini heart attack.

I was very mad that when they brought me breakfast I kicked them out of my house.  (But I kept the food)

After cooling for a bit I realized that I shouldn’t have thrown our years of friendship away so I decided to apologize.

I don’t remember being so humble to anyone in my life. I was so desperate proving my worth to them that I ‘lost’ myself doing it. 

I begged the guy for days and weeks to hear me out (who does that?) because I thought I’d never do without them but all I got were insults.

I decided to move on and channeled my frustration and anger towards making money. I got into the world of business and did quite well.

That’s when I realized that the best revenge is success because the guy and the girl came crawling back to me but I knew enough not to get burned by the same flame twice and as NICOLLO MACHIAVELLI said, A MAN WHO IS USED TO ACTING IN ONE WAY NEVER CHANGES, HE MUST COME TO RUIN WHEN THE TIMES IN CHANGING ARE NO LONGER IN HARMONY WITH HIS WAYS .

I decided not to “let them in” my life because I realized that I was much happier without them.


Forcing a relationship to work is like forcing a wrong key to open a padlock. It won’t work because it’s just not the right key.


You will realize much later that you are better off without some people who you thought you couldn’t live without at the time.

41 thoughts on “​Never beg somebody to stay

  1. Amen – so easy to get caught up in the need to please others as they own their happiness not anybody else. I’m more of a Sun-Tsu kinda girl, but I’ve been known to dabble in a bit of Machiavelli now and again. Thanks for reading my blog and putting your good stuff on my radar!

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  2. Yeah that’s so good and well said ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️ true and recently experienced in my. Last 7 months …. breaking up with him was full of agony that’s last for 2 days only and now a worth living without him …… as things goes round he came back apologising …. I forgave him and moved on … we are now friends ‘only’ 🙃 so Dramatic 🤨🤨🤨🤨 well he gave me words to write down for my Blog .. ‘Your love is Mirage’

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  3. They say the end isn’t really the end but simply a new beginning. Satisfaction with a side of eggs, sounds like a delightful breakfast you got to keep. A lesson learned is a lesson earned, I’ll remember this. Nice one! 😉

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