Have you ever avoided being happy just because you thought that something bad would happen to you for being happy?
Cherophobia is an attitude towards happiness in which a person may deliberately avoid experiences that invoke happiness.
This is the belief that when an individual becomes happy , a negative event will soon occur that will taint their happiness, as if that individual is being punished for satisfaction.
I am a cherophobe and I’ve been like so for a long time now. I can recall way too many occasions that I was like MAN THIS MOMENT RIGHT HERE IS SO GOOD that what might happen next must be pretty bad.
Here they are…
1.Focus on the NOW
We can mindfully stay present when life is uncomfortable by not checking out when things get bad. This encourages us to fully embrace the present moment and increases our keenness.
This is done by replacing a negative thought which in our case is fearing happiness, with positive thoughts like YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.
It is proven that the best way to overcome our fears is by facing them. Take for instance, I used to fear diving in a swimming pool and not until January this year that I decided to face it because I had tried all other methods and failed.
I used to think that if I dived, I’d reach the bottom of the swimming pool and break my fingers or if It was a deep pool I’d go so far down that I wouldn’t make it back to the top alive.
I went ahead and dived
and nothing happened. I was so proud of myself that I spent three hours diving only.
In our case here, just dare to be happy and as much as you can and see what happens. Nothing will happen.
4.Quit watching soap opera
This was the main cause of my cherophobia. If you’ve ever watched a soap opera, any soap opera, you must have seen the moments when everyone is happy then something bad happens.
This is so serious that the only moment the actors of soap operas are happy and truly happy is when the villain is dead and it’s the last episode.
Cherophobia is just a phobia like any other so I’d strongly advise you to go with option number three
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